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Well. i guess that takes care of that then, doesnt it?

 My fathers only response to my asking him why he took me off of his facecrack and now refuses to even speak to me?

" My dearly departed Mother once told me as a child that if you cant say anything nice then don't say anything at all!!!!!!!!"

 i get the feeling he was snooping  about the name angelstrange and stumbled upon some of my more recent erotica online and GRAVELY misunderstood.

news flash; i dont actually want to fuck my DAD. It has NOTHING to do with HIM, my biological father.
because no, and EW.

  In my mind, the concept of having a "Daddy" is about wanting to feel safe , valueable, protected,  cherished, obedient , dominated and adored.

 Alrighty then. Anyhow. That certainly makes things MUCH easier on my end.

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randomsynapses
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:14 am (UTC)
So, um, is he saying you're a negative person? Or that he's got nothing to say that's not negative? Either way, ouch.

*LOVE* *HUG*
meternieth
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:47 pm (UTC)
he doesnt want to talk.
abracas
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:56 am (UTC)
Far more likely it your openess about poly on FB that is the issue. You have no reason to believe he's seen the story other than paranoia, do you?
meternieth
Sep. 17th, 2008 06:13 am (UTC)
the thing is he KNOWS we are poly and has been supportive of it in the past. so i dunno.
falan
Sep. 17th, 2008 06:36 am (UTC)
Bragh, it really sucks when parents act so.. so, grmble, don't even have the words for it. My dad is farging up as well, driving himself (further) into depression by totally obsessing over my mum's immersing herself into the energy work/healing culture and with her choice of partner instead of focusing on himself and where his future lies after the upcoming divorce. Granted, by all accounts her partner seems like an uber-conservative (global warming denying, iraq war supporting, big business loving), kinda creepy douche but bleh.. I hate seeing him like that.
meternieth
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:32 pm (UTC)
blah and pooh:(
meoka2368
Sep. 17th, 2008 09:38 am (UTC)
Yeah... Some people just don't understand about anything kinky.
Something came up for me tonight at our gaming night.

Me: You just need to get yourself a sub.
New player to the group: A what?
Me (internally): Oh, boy. Here we go.
meternieth
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:32 pm (UTC)
dude. totally.
ignusfaatus
Sep. 17th, 2008 04:52 pm (UTC)
tell your dad that you are sorry he got more information about your private and or fiction writing than he could handle.

Ask your dad if when his children were growing up they ever discovered too much personal information about him and how he felt about it. Ask him how he handled the inevitable privacy invasions that happen when you raise children. maybe THAT will get him thinking. If he has ahlf a brain he will feel like a DORK.
meternieth
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:32 pm (UTC)
the thing is even if that's what it is, and i honestly cant think of what else it could possibly be, he wont admit it. In order to have found my online stuff he would've had to REALLY look, like behind cuts, past pages that say "this is erotic writing of the kinky bdsm nature". He would be way too embarassed to admit that he even looked, see what i mean?
and either way, on my end, i dislike the way this was handled.Why not just ASK me, personally? Would it be so hard to say,i am wondering about This thing here? Can you clear it up for me, please?

When i was a kid , there was alot of overt sexuality, innapropriate stuff, on the side of the men in my family. i knew way too much too young, but the things still stood, men were sexual, women were FOR sex and not expected to have a sexuality or desires and needs of their own, that part was clear enough.

So maybe Steve is correct in the thought that hes upset by the pics of us as a happy polyfam, despite knowing for more than a decade that we were activly involved with other people.ie; it was fine when i was with a woman, but now i am with another man and that is just WRONG.
ignusfaatus
Sep. 17th, 2008 05:52 pm (UTC)
that is why asking him how he handled it when his kids saw too much is a good approach.

It does not accuse him outright and can be seen as an innocent question

It reminds him diplomatically that he has been in your shoes and should be able to sympathize

It really frames him in the child role and you in the parent role - so it is a sneaky way for you to take authority. (but he won't get that if he is a retard. i am only assuming he is not)
meternieth
Sep. 17th, 2008 06:15 pm (UTC)
good point
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